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What most wives would think of their husband getting beat up in front of them by another guy?

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and why, how depends?
how common this happens too and why?

what most husbands would think or do, say after too to their wives and why?
what could be more humiliating for a husband and why?

Answer by Shanell Contreras
Women are naturally nurturers. Its their motherly instinct to care for the weaker. However, its mans instinct to be the most victorious and brawny over other men. I think it would be an upset for the man himself to get beat up in front of his wife, but I think the wife would try to console the hurt man, especially if he was her husband.

Answer by CanadianPerspective
No clue how I’d feel except utter concern for the safety of my husband. I’ve seen my husband Aleah win the fights that he’s been involved in and he’s been in quite a few. He’s defended me, his dad, etc. No time for details as there’s too many stories to tell. He just manages to run into dinks when out and about : (

Answer by *Destiny’s Prince*
Usually, if the wife is there, she would put her own life on the line to help defend her husband. She would not stand there and watch Him get beat up..

http://youtu.be/AYdDRTRaWr8

Answer by joemckenna74
It would partly depend on the circumstances, i.e. Who started the fight. How big was the other guy. Did her husband give a good account of himself even if he lost etc.
Consciously, the woman will just want to take care of her man, and not be bothered that he lost. She didn’t marry him for his fighting skills.
Subconsciously, she may start to worry that he couldn’t/wouldn’t protect her or her offspring. Especially if he didn’t try to fight, and just kept talking ineffectually like a professional victim, until he was incapacitated.
Unless the assailant was much bigger or stronger, or obviously a professional fighter, the husband could not fail to feel emasculated.

Possibly a worse thing for a man would be losing a fight that HE started, in front of his child/children.

Answer by Why Can’t I Have Nice Things?
i would call the cops, of course and be very scared, naturally

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  1. Here are three summaries of books I am working on. I would like to know what the people would like to read about.
    I would like to know…
    1) Which idea you like most
    2) How old you are (you don’t have to answer this one)
    3) What types of books you like to read (myths, history, crimes, romance, horror, etc…)
    4) What idea you least like
    5) Why you don’t like it
    6) A. What I should change on the one you don’t like
    b. What I can change on the one you like

    A) Love without a Lie
    It’s about a mythical family whose oldest daughter; Selena’s true love is a human. The boy’s dad works with the family’s only son (Troy) to discovering Poka. The family is one of the most powerful because Selena is the next great warrior. To her that means her life is written down in a book that every Poka has. Skyler, Selena’s true love, is thrown into the world that the word impossible is really impossible to say. There are magical powers, powerful people, and huge talking horses. Oh, and did I mention that God and the Three Poka Gods are in a great argument over not only Skyler, but the whole human race. While they fight the Midnight War gets closer to continuing into the dawn and killing everything and everything.

    B) Breaking Point
    At the age of 7 Zoey’s dad died. Her twin, Abigail, was a mommy’s girl. While Zoey’s was daddy’s girl. Her mom quickly married another man. The man who not only hated her father but killed him. Zoey reminded him so much of her father he stared to abuse her sexually and physically. Her mother did nothing. When Zoey turned 10 on her birthday, her step-dad helped some men kidnap her. He convinced her that her daughter died and was burnt in the car crash that almost killed him. Really before the car crashed and was set a blazed, he handed her over to kidnappers. He had kidnapped children before. He would kidnap 12 girls and 2 boys and at the end of 6 months of rapping and hurting the preteens, he would kill them. The cops would be clueless. Maybe because he was a cop. He drove the others on wild goose hunts. This time things changed a lot, Zoey would only let him hurt her. She took the beating and everything else that was support to go to the others. Before he could kill them, his 2nd wife called the cops and bagged them to come. She never mentioned who he was, just that he was going to kill again, and he did. He killed her in front of Zoey. When the cops found the kids he was long gone and no one know who Zoey was. She was placed in foster care and was brutally beaten and rapped, over and over again. Never the same people. Finally when she was 17 she was adopted by an older couple. They where the first to care for her and love her. Two weeks before her 18 birthday the wife died. A week later the husband died. With a week until legal age to be on her own, she was left to go back into the system. Instead Zoey ran, she found a job and when to college to be a cop. She finished when she was 22. Now she works at a police station, owns a huge house she built, and has adopted two kids a 16 year old and a 7 year old. Her life is perfect until Agent Covert comes out of nowhere. He is now her partner and suddenly becomes more than that. When her life finally gets back to normal. Zoey’s step-dad strikes again this time at the 14′s kids. Her history puzzles Covert and somewhat sends him running for his life. She soon learns her sister has moved on and is married. And her mom is Still married to that monster.

    C) Royal Love
    When a soon to be 20 and queen finally learns she wants nothing to do with being queen or marring the 40 year old her parents grow up with she runs to college in America. Princess Izabetha soon becomes Izzy. Izzy is free of protective agents and servants. She can bath herself and dress herself and breath. Soon she starts falling for a handsome her-own-age-guy. Dating becomes a breeze with no cameras around. Until the breeze hits her family back in her own country. Slowly her father and mother agree to come to America for a causal dinner in causal clothes. But what they bring with them in nothing but pest and problems. Izzy is now engaged to this boy and still has a 40 year old man chasing after her. She has not the blessing of her father to marry this young boy. So she runs. Away for the 40 year olds and cameras and the crown. There is a reason the 40 year old guy is not married, if only Izzy can show her dad that.

    So what do you think?
    Jack she is very pushy are keeps everyone out and at the first meeting with the guy she kind of sprays him with pepper spray

  2. 1. A couple were going out for the evening. They’d got ready, all dolled up, cat put out, etc.The taxi arrives, and as the couple got out, the cat shoots back in. They don’t want the cat shut in the house, so the wife goes out to the taxi while the husband goes upstairs to chase the cat out.The wife, not wanting it known that the house will be empty explains to the taxi driver “He’s just going upstairs to say goodbye to my mother.”A few minutes later, the husband gets into the cab -”Sorry I took so long” he says, “Stupid old thing was hiding under the bed and I had to poke her with a coat hanger to get her to come out!”

    2.Billy was on holiday in America and didn’t speak very good English. It was his last day and he was heading to the airport to fly home, but first he needed to buy a few things.
    He ends up going to the store and asking the clerk for some “BUM”. She sits there and thinks for awhile and then says, “Oh you must mean gum.”
    Then he goes to the fish store and askes if he could get some “FiCK IT”. The fish man thinks and says, “Oh I get it, you must mean Bucket (bucket of fish)”
    Billy shakes his head as YES.
    Then he makes a trip to the pet store and says, “Could I get a crock and spank it?” The pet store owner says “Oh you must mean Cocker Spaniel.”
    Billy shakes his head YES.
    He finally makes it to the airport where he will be catching his flight.
    When he gets there he askes this guy…
    “Could you hold my bum and fick it while I get my crock and spank it”

    3. Two sisters, one blonde and one brunette, inherit the family ranch. Unfortunately, after just a few years, they are in financial trouble.In order to keep the bank from repossessing the ranch, they need to purchase a bull so that they can breed their own stock.The brunette balances their checkbook, then takes their last $600 dollars out west to another ranch where a man has a prize bull for sale. Upon leaving, she tells her sister, “When I get there, if I decide to buy the bull, I’ll contact you to drive out after me and haul it home.”The brunette arrives at the man’s ranch, inspects the bull, and decides she does want to buy it. The man tells her that he can sell it for $599, no less.After paying him, she drives to the nearest town to send her sister a telegram to tell her the news. She walks into the telegraph office, and says, “I want to send a telegram to my sister telling her that I’ve bought a bull for our ranch. I need her to hitch the trailer to our pick-up truck and drive out here so we can haul it home.”The telegraph operator explains that he’ll be glad to help her, then adds, “It’s just 99 cents a word.” Well, with only $1 left after paying for the bull, the brunette realizes that she’ll only be able to send her sister one word.After thinking for a few minutes, she nods, and says, “I want you to send her the word, ‘comfortable.’”The telegraph operator shakes his head. “How is she ever going to know that you want her to hitch the trailer to your pick-up truck and drive out here to haul that bull back to your ranch if you send her the word, ‘comfortable?’”The brunette explains, “My sister’s blonde. She’ll read it slow.”

    4. A man absolutely hated his wife’s cat, and decided to get rid of him one day. So he drove the cat 20 blocks from home and left him at the park. As he was arriving home, the cat was walking up the driveway.The next day he drove the cat 40 blocks away. He put the dreaded beast out and headed back home. When he pulled up in the driveway, the cat was sitting on the front porch.He kept taking the cat further and further, but the cat would always beat him back home. Finally he drove the cat several miles away, making frequent turns, across bridges and rivers, until he decided the cat would never find his way home, and put the cat out.Hours later the man calls home, “Honey, is the cat there?”"Yes, why do you ask,” the wife answers.Frustrated, the man says, “Put the little shit on the phone, I’m lost and need directions.”

    5. Homer Simpson, praying Heavenward:
    “I’m not normally a religious man, but if you’re up there, save me, Superman!”

    6. To set the scene, Marge is expecting her third baby…

    Marge: “I’m afraid we’re going to need a bigger house.”
    Homer: “No, we won’t. I’ve got it all figured out. The baby can have Bart’s crib and Bart’ll sleep with us until he’s 21.”
    Marge: Won’t that warp him?
    Homer: “My cousin Frank did it.”
    Marge: “You don’t have a cousin Frank.”
    Homer: “He became Francine back in ’76. Then he joined that cult. I think her name is Mother Shabubu now.”

    7. Q: What’s the difference between blondes and traffic signs?
    A: Some traffic signs say stop

  3. do you know some one that had little money and from some where they received a great deal more and it made them change in some way for the worst or made them smarter or better looking or just plain evil or stupid and If they lost it again would they be the same person !

  4. I have been looking for the names of a few specific Horror/Thriller/Suspense/Mystery movies that came out in the 80′s and 90′s when I was a kid. The problem is I don’t remember the names of any of the movies or the stars of these films. The only thing I remember were a few certain and specific scenes from these films that caught my attention. If anyone can help me figure out these mystery movies I would appreciate it.

    Questions 1, 2, 3, are all from the same movie I think. Questions 4, 5, 6, are completely different and are separate movies from one another.

    1. One of the movies were a bunch of short stories similar to “Creepshow” and “Tales From the Dark Side”. One story was about a Man who came home late one dark and stormy night after work and he lived in this Mansion and he was a heavy drinker. I think he was being Haunted by Ghosts or was being chased by a Serial Killer. At the end he had enough of being terrified and chased down by who or what was scaring him. He went downstairs with his shotgun and pulled the trigger and at that precise moment his wife, family, friends, turned the living room lights on and yelled surprise and his brother lay dead with a bed-sheet or something over him in a pool of blood. I distinctively remember an old Grandfather Clock that kept chiming and going off in certain parts of the scenes.

    2. The other scene was a male and female couple or best friends and they were driving in the middle of the night down a deserted city street that is surrounded by Industrial Factories. They were both having an argument in the car and the driver hits someone or see’s something while he or she is driving an a accident occurs. They suddenly stop and pull into this driveway that had closed steel shutters and they run towards the middle of the road in a panic looking around to see what they had just hit or didn’t hit. No, it’s not the movie “Thinner”.

    3. An old man who was either a Liberian, Janitor, or Night Watchmen working late one night in a library and he keeps hearing strange noises in the library. I think he was listening to either his Radio or Walkman and was singing and dancing along to his music. Books and papers started flying off the shelves and flying around behind him. I don’t know if it was some kind of creature or ghost that was slowly following him and creeping up behind him. No, it’s not “Ghostbusters”.

    4. All I remember was a gang or a gang of Skinheads were watching and following this young couple while they were getting out of there car. The gang started harassing and messing around with the couple after they got out of the car. The gang ended up beating up the Boyfriend or Husband and two or three of the gang members had propped him up outside against the side of a trailer and forced him to watch as the gang members proceeded to gang-bang the guys Girlfriend or Wife one right after the other in front of him outside the trailer. I think they either killed one or the other, or both of them, or the Boyfriend and Husband goes after his attackers and brutally seeks out his revenge slowly killing them one by one. No, It’s not “The Crow.”

    5. A Family had just moved into this castle in Europe and the father was recently married to this beautiful and sexy twenty-something or in her early thirties wife. The father’s son from his previous marriage was in his mid or late teens and his sexy step mother was constantly flirting and seducing him. I think he was possessed and he ends up seducing his step mother and he leads her into this torture chamber or sex chamber somewhere secluded in the castle. He has her sit down and straps her up to this wooden chair that resembles an electric chair. All of a sudden these saw blades start coming out of certain spots of this wooden chair and starts sawing the step mothers flesh off while the step son watches. No, It’s not “Castle Freak”.

    6. I think the movie was a Foreign film but I’m not quite sure. It was one of those film noire and it reminded me of those films where it’s a movie within a movie type of story. From what I remember there was a crazy Director who was making this erotic horror movie and the Director and one of it’s lead actors were both serial killers. The Director was shooting a scene and the actor who was a killer looked like Igor from Frankenstein. The Igor type of actor started doing a love scene with this actress who resembled Jean Harlow. The setting had this whole Gothic sensual vibe to it and the Igor actor viciously tortures and kills the actress on camera. The Igor type of actor got off on it and the Director laughed and loved every minute of it. There was also a fired Actor or a Detective that watched the whole scene go down watching closely from the rafters from up above in utter shock.

  5. Yeah I figure I may as well let the cat out of the bag, and admit to all of you that i beat my wife. Not only do I enjoy doing so, but it makes me feel more of a man!

    Okay, well I know you people are probably going to make a field day out of this, but please read my whole question first before you decide to attack me, so you know where I am coming from.

    I don’t know who to talk to so i figured i’d ask you guys for your honest opinions about what I should do. I mean it never used to happen, but now it’s almost an everyday occurrence. At first we kept it to ourselves, but every now and then she has to go and tell all of her friends. I can handle that. As a matter of fact, i’ve beaten one or two of them in the past. Just not in the same humiliating fashion.

    I’ve tried everything. It’s not helping. I think this is like an addiction. I can’t wait for her to get home from work so I can beat her some more. Deep down I know she enjoys it. After all, it is some of the best time we get to spend together, and I just want her to be able to appreciate it the way I do.

    I almost feel guilty about my actions, as I would have to say that I have a knack for it, and I’m pretty damned good at it to be honest. Sometimes however, I just wish she would put up a better fight. I mean on some days I am definitely not impressed by her performance. I want to make videos of this and put it on Youtube, but i am worried that people will make fun of her for her lack of ability to
    defend herself and she might feel embarassed.

    So I’ve tried to reason with her, but she just persists on coming back for more. Kind of like that leftover turd in your toilet that never seems to flush. I don’t know what more she wants out of me, and quite honestly my hands are still pretty sore from the beating i delivered to her this morning. Maybe i need therapy, or a better way to massage my hands.

    I can’t remember the countless Thursday night’s I have spent, beating her in front of our friends. Sometimes I even let them get in on the action and beat her too. And when she cheats, I still manage to lay down the law and it feels that much more rewarding. I can’t even recall the number of times I have passed up some bedroom intimacy for the satisfaction of laying the hammer down some more!!

    I mean what more can i say? I derive great pleasure from these actions, but really I think she needs help. I mean i’ve tried to hold off for a while and take a break, but every time i manage to do so, she just misses it too badly, and so do I. I’m trying everything to stop, but I’m having way too much fun! I think she’s getting better at taking the punishment however. She doesn’t seem to cry anymore when I’m doing it, and things aren’t flying around the room and breaking as much as they used to.

    So I figured i’d come to you guys for advice. Why the hell not right?! So anyways is there any advice I should give to the old lady to make her any better at video games???

  6. men grab my ass and boobs all the time and he just sits or stands by and watches and never does anything. there is a creep who lives near us and he follows me and sent me flowers 2days ago and it had a card saying “will your husband pimp you out?”
    im just wondering why on earth my husband will let men treat me this way, does he love me?
    im a stay at home wife and i keep the house in tip top shape.
    i keep my self in tip top shape to, that’s probably why guys grab me, im only 5foot nothing and i know my husband could take thees guys, Why wont he?
    My husband is great to me in every other way but this.

    and he wont let me work.

    and im not staying with him for $
    trust me… ive let men have it!
    even my husbands dad
    my husband knows i hate it
    it happens every where his job. stores
    every where
    trust me i dont like it… if you knew me you would know that

  7. A few months ago, there was an opening with the CIA for an assassin. These highly classified positions are hard to fill, and there’s a lot of testing and background checks involved before you can even be considered for the position. After sending some applicants through the background checks, training and testing, they narrowed the possible choices down to two men and a woman, but only one position was available.
    The day came for the final test to see which peson would get the extremely secretive job. The CIA men administering the test took one of the men to a large metal door and handed him a gun. “We must know that you will follow our instructions whatever the circumstances,” they explained. “Inside this room, you will find your wife sitting in a chair. Take this gun and kill her.” The man looked horrified and said, “You can’t be serious! I could never shoot my wife!” “Well,” said the CIA man, “you’re definitely not the right man for this job then.”
    So they brought the second man to the same door and handed him a gun. “We must know that you will follow instructions no matter what the circumstances,” they explained to the second man. “Inside you will find your wife sitting in a chair. Take this gun and kill her.” The second man looked a bit shocked, but nevertheless took the gun and went in the room. All was quiet for about 5 minutes; then the door opened. The man came out of the room with tears in his eyes. “I tried to shoot her; I just couldn’t pull the trigger and shoot my wife. I guess I’m not the right man for the job.”
    “No,” the CIA man replied, “You don’t have what it takes. Take your wife and go home.”
    Now they only had the woman left to test. They led her to the same door to the same room and handed her the same gun. “We must be sure that you will follow instructions no matter what the circumstaOnce there were two twins, Joe and John. Joe was the owner of a dilapidated old boat, which sank the same day that John’s wife died. A few days later, a kindly old woman saw Joe and mistook him for John.
    “I’m sorry to hear about your loss. You must just feel terrible.”
    “Hell, no! In fact, I’m sort of glad to be rid of her. She was a rotten old thing right from the beginning. Her bottom was all shriveled up and she smelled like old dead fish. She was always losing her water, she had a bad crack in the back and a pretty big hole in the front too. Every time I used her, her hole got bigger and she leaked like crazy. I guess what finally finished her off was when I rented her to these four guys looking for a good time. I warned them that she wasn’t very good, but they wanted to use her anyhow. The fools tried to get in her all at once and she split right up the middle.” nces; this is your final test. Inside you will find your husband sitting in a chair. Take this gun and kill him.” The woman took the gun and opened the door. Before the door even closed all the way, the CIA men heard the gun start firing, one shot after another for 13 shots. Then all hell broke loose in the room. They heard screaming, rashing, and banging on the walls. This went on for several minutes; then all went quiet.
    The door opened slowly, and there stood the woman. She wiped the sweat from her brow and said, “You guys didn’t tell me the gun was loaded with blanks. I had to beat the son of a bitch to death with the chair!”

  8. i am 30 now married for 5 yrs.. it all started 5 yr ago, 2 month before marriage.. my BF ditched me so i get depressed & suicidal..upon this my parents & bro beat me for having a BF.. so i lost respect among my family & become a somewhat low control person.. it hurted me bcz i did nothing wrong ( i mean noe se*x or even hand holding, just over phone talk to my college senior thats it) but since first crush & no other guy talking before so my innocense felt i m wrong

    in 2 months i married to hubby(arranged)..& i feel i cant love him but my mom still avoid to listen to my heartache rather force tme to live in his house while everyone could see something wrong with me..so my future life was also losing respect for me..i wish my mom supported me that time but she just complaint to her relatives about me & didnt understand my grief.. i developed hate for her & my family since that time as my sister will also taunt on me that i m less of a person.. so here i was stuck…

    than in 3 month i came to another country to live with hubby.. here he was living before me & had an immotional affair with his friends wife.. thats it he broke my heart, insulted me for her, stopped talking to me, treat me like a boy show no interest in me, laugh on my condition, challenege my intelligence to win him, trry to put me down, humiliate me always, flirt with other girls on my face, call me a trash, blame me for being a failure, use my weak points & show no immotion at all, no physical relation with me… so i broke inside heart more over 5 yrs & started anti depressant for 2 yrs.. but i become more mental..

    i start telling things to my mom again ..she cried for me.. but last yr when invited thwem to visit me in this country (my mom & dada) she also flirted with my husband & hurted me more… so i am left all alone…my father hit me in front of my hubby just to insult me & get some money favour from my hubby..when i got them out of my house, after going back they told their relatives that i tried to seduce my father…
    taking advantage of this my hubby told his relatives i am characterless…

    thats it.. my life, respect motive to live all ended with this.. now even if i get good job everyone in my society will treat me a low character girl… bcz my own closest are telling this to people so thats how everyone is treating me now…. i m so fed up with this life & severely depressed

    i dont want to fogive my mother, family & husband & want same bitter revenge from all of them to miuswe their power to love me to make me low for their advantage.. i hate them so much… that either i want to kill myself or my hubby & get my mother & parents defamed & disrespected same way as they have done to me… they spoiled my 20 years hard work to make a career..just by their lies… now i dont want to live…

    any suggestions to prove them wrong in society & degrade them instead… so that they should be ashamed of people not me

  9. Hey so I might have a chance to have sex with this one women in front of her husband. I guess he likes his wife being please with another guy. He is 100% straight and so am I. I have never done anything like it. Should I do it? Or would I regret it. Would it be weird and awkward? Its just sex I guess and I would be getting laid. They are not my friends and they have done it before. They are also 100% std free. Thanks!

  10. i would like your guys opinion about the introduction to my story, i plan on putting it also later into the story. well here it is;

    I could barely breathe, it was so hot outside. Sweat was dripping off of my forehead. I took a drink of my water to try to cool down from the desert heat. I was sitting along a mountain side in Afghanistan, with nothing but my beat-to-shit self, my M82A1 sniper rifle, and the desert heat. My heart was pounding in my chest, and it felt like you could hear it from miles away. I was nervous, really nervous. I couldn’t stop thinking about my wife and two kids. I knew that being here, where I am now, would be my only chance to save them. I take a look through my scope, and adjusted it until I can see the campsite that I was over looking. The campsite where my family was being held at, and where the man I had to kill was. The man that I have been hunting down for 3 years and at last, I have found him. His name is Ayman al-Zawahiri, the man that kidnapped my family, and plotting the biggest attack on the United States, since 9/11.
    I placed a picture of my target in front of me and loaded my weapon. I took a deep breath, and took a look at my dog tags, reading the name on them. Captain Mark Westfall, that’s who I am. Nobody really special. Just your average person, husband, and father. I don’t have any story leading up to the person I am. Just a man that is trying to get his family back and there’s nothing that will get in my way of doing so. I took another deep breath, took another look at my targets picture, and looked through my scope, down at the campsite. I looked around until my target came into sight. I lined up my crosshairs on the right side of his head. I checked to see if my weapon was loaded and put a round in the chamber. I waited for another five minutes and took my shot, that seemed to be heard from around the world…

  11. so i have a daughter with this guy, were not together anymore, hes now married to another women who will not let him except my child! evertime he calls she fights him and then he calls me and gets mad at me (in front of her) making me look like im the bad person! she came to my work and tryed to fight me one time over his fone calls… she always stalks my fb page and even makes up fake accounts and adds me as a friend (not knowing its her tell way later)!! he started calling me the begining of the year saying he misses me and that he thinks he made a big mistake by marring her! i told him the only contact me and him will have is if it concerns our child! but still he calls and said he misses my touch and he wants to see me!! and even leaves messages on my fone!! one time i had to call him because of our daughter, he didnt answer and two mins later he calls back and tells me you need to stop calling my fone (his wife in the back ground yelling: tell her who your with) Im with my wife you need to leave us alone!! two mins later he calls back and leaves a message saying disregard that last fone call, i had to do it cuz she made me!! ugh i hate that! so finally when he wold call me and if it wasnt about our daughter i would message his wife (trying to be the bigger person and let her know whats up) and tell her ” i know im the last person you want to hear from but your husband has been calling me and i want you to know before it gets out of hand and i am not the one calling him… and kinda detail of what he was doing and where he was when he called. but that didnt work she messages me back saying “why the hell are you messaging me, im going to get you for stocking and if i ever hear from you again on here of if you ever talk to my husband you will get your ass beat so bad you wont be recinoized anymore, leave me alone’ but her wording wasnt that nice!! so i never did that again… then my number shows up on her husbands outging calls and she calls me and says who is this… i tell her and she says why the hell is my husband calling you… you need to change your number and leav us alone” i know it makes no sence since he was the one calling!! recently his wife fell ill… and he calls even more leaving messages on my fone, calls my work, calls my parents house, and blosks his number and call me.. so i answer… he asks me if i have a boyfriend cuz he wants to see me and that he feels al alone and that his wife dont let him do anything and leaves hiim home baby sitting (they also have a child together) and that he needs my touch! when i dont answer he leavs messages saying where are you so do you have a boyfriend now, and goes on and on about how he knows he hurt me and that hes sorry and wants to make things right! then he calls again and says so whos your new man now days! making it sound like hes scared im gonna have a new boyfriend!! ugh! anyway i need help on putting something on my fb status where i know she will read it… cuz she stalks my page 20 times a day…(whenshe fights him she brings up my post on fb and fights him over it even when its not even about him) i want to let her see how i feel but i dont know what to put …. idk just anything… since i told you a lil about my situatuion what can i poston my status or what would you do in this situation!! lol! anything helps!! (p.s. i changed my number many times and he still manages it get it!! his family cant stand his wife but they all get along great with me, we talk, they come visit, they call me often, and some of my closet friends are his reletives so he has easy access to my where abouts and phone numbers)

  12. My husband filed for divorce saying that could no longer take my “attitude”. Our youngest graduates this spring from college. I was looking forward to our time with the kids grown and start looking forward to both of our retirements in th future. We were going to be able to have alone time and do things that had put off when raising kids. He said that only reason had stayed the last 6 years was because of the kids. About 6 years ago he had talked me into marriage counseling but only went for a couple vists with him and told him it was waste of time and money that everything was ok. I know he did go for while afterward but I truly thought everything was ok. I love my husband so when he said wanted a divorce it was a complete shock. Whats even more surprising is our kids at supporting him and even overheard them tell him that don’t know how put up with my attitude for so long. I feel beaten and alone even my kids are siding with him. I told him that would change and couldn’t we go to counciling. His response was that he tried and that I just threw it back in his face and time for it has come and gone. Don’t know what going to do this is not what or where things suppose to be going now. When he talks it’s about splitting of assets and how to make this simple so can both move on. All I want is for him to call off the divorce I so love and miss him. He has moved into a apartment close to his work. I am alone in our house though the realtor sign is already up. He is being very fair but just wish would stop the whole thing. It’s like my life is surreal and I am just a observer to its spiral down the drain.

  13. I am going to open up about EVERYTHING in my relationship and do it here because i dont care if a stranger judges me and i need a place to vent and see what others think…

    My Wife and i are seperated and have been since April 12th (she stayed at a friends that week) or 19th (she got her own apartment). I filed for divorce and she paid all the filing fees :) (awesome).

    Everything was good for the first 2 years, or so i thought. Then one day while arguing about money i left for work and had an awful feeling something was going to happen. Sure enough a “man broke in and beat my wife up”… with TWO dobermans locked in the front bedroom and the one was not quiet, ever. Supposedly my wife was using the bathroom and heard teh dogs barking so she “got up” and opened the door and a guy in a ski mask beat the mess out of her. she was bruised pretty good, but not to the point she should have been if someone wanted to hurt her.

    i got a call from her sister at work telling me to get home, the sister made her call 911, she didnt do it on her own. now, that day i found out a lot of lies because when the story was explained to myself and an officer he began questioning me, i told him i didnt do it and pointed out that…. THE TOILET SEAT WAS UP!!! my wife claims to use it with the seat up sometimes (no woman does this).

    i left home to get her father and this is what came out: i know how far fetched and naive i was at that time, but in my defense two major reasons i believed her are: numerous (4) coworkers told me about her “past” and talked me into dating her and giving her a chance because of her past and how she needed someone to be patient with her and understanding…. and her dad made a silly comment while wrestling with her saying “dont you wish i was your real dad”…. read on folks

    Below are things i was told while dating…..
    Told me her real father was a next door neighbor
    Told me her family had michigan mafia connections
    told me she was 100% italian
    said her real father owned a major restaurant chain
    Said she had money in an overseas account from an inhertiance and family in italy stole it, used 500K while we were dating – she would even come over my house dressed up in clothing to match situations like funerals, business meetings, etc… who goes to those lengths for a lie????
    Said she was molested and raped by her aunts boyfriend for years.
    Said the man who molested her was released from prison in 2003 and he was stalking her, i asked if i could help out and she said her “cousins” were taking care of it. She had a hand written letter from him to her that was left on her bed (the man broke in) – it had some of the most disgusting things written in it, she showed me but i refused to read it.
    She went to a major school of dance and was offered a job dancing over seas but stayed here because of me (i insisted she take the job).
    Her dance partner saw bruises on her thighs and that’s how her molestor was caught
    Her dance partern died of AIDS, her dance school owner passed away, her half sister was killed, she found another neighborhood friend who was molested by teh same guy dead (she hung herself), and another person who was molested (slit her own throat).
    she said her father had given her a black eye in the summer of 03 and had blamed her molestor to hide that her dad hit her.

    we tried to make it work and then…
    I Found envelope with “Vaction Money” written on it in her white back pack – never confronted her but have found out since that it was her moms and she stole it.
    -She had a ziploc bag (1 gallon size) with double seal strips (blue and purple) – when i asked her where it came from she said her purse and it rolled into our argument about the next event which ultimately led her to leave the first time 3 years ago.
    -I had a bestbuy gift card stolen from me – i called best buy with the card number and they described an mp3 player which was purchased with the card, she purchased the same item on the same day but denied she used my card.

    WOW!!!!

    now, we have a 2 year old because while she was gone the first time this man couldnt keep it in his pants because of course the crazier they are the hotter they are and my wife’s kind of hot and OF COURSE she stopped taking her birth control a few months earlier and DIDNT TELL ME!!!! (i love my daughter with all my heart)

    and now…. i found a love letter from her coworker that i “respectfully” referred to as “her boyfriend” over the past 14 months… sure enough, they began dating THE WEEK after she moved out. we have a 2 year old and i’m stumped as to what to do now… every ounce of me wants an apology but she blames me, says i treated her horribly and she “moved on”… let me be clear… I DO NOT WANT HER BACK!!! i filed for divorce a few weeks ago and we have a settlement agreement to be filed in a
    just looking to vent.. what i wrote is 100 percent truth and i confronted her on this stuff when she moved out and her reply was “i moved on, so should you”….

    also would like to know if character plays a BIG role or “just a role” with custody…

    her parents are furious with her, her sisters dont believe a word she says, she lied and said i’ve been sleeping around for “years and in front of my daughter” and when her sister said she didnt believe that she replied with “mind your own business then”.

    her family relationships are strained at best and i was told that “anything or anyone” i needed to help me out would be there when needed.
    and… To agnostic queen… i am a wonderful father- i have been working with at risk youth for 10 years… my relationship with my 2 year old will never be questioned, by anyone with any knowledge of our relationship because it’s simply that strong of a bond.
    The kicker… i was arrested for domestic violence last night. she claimed i hit her in the back yard.. i was inside with my 2 year old coloring.

  14. There’s two blondes in a car driving and the one in the passenger seat looks out her window and see’s another blonde rowing a boat in a field of wheat and she says to the blonde driving “See its blonde’s like that who give blonde’s like us a bad name, if i could swim- I’d go out there and smack her!”

    There’s a blonde a redhead and brunette in hell&their task is to not lie to a lie detecting machine, their consequence will be sucked up by it. Very carefully the redhead approaches and says “i think I’m pretty good at cooking” and it lets her go, thinking about it the brunette goes up to it and says “i think I’m pretty good at sewing” and it lets her go, the blonde goes up to it quickly and says “i think-” and it sucked her up.

    Three men were standing in line to get into heaven one day. Apparently it had been a pretty busy day, though, so St. Peter had to tell the first one, “Heaven’s getting pretty close to full today, and I’ve been asked to admit only people who have had particularly horrible deaths. So what’s your story?”

    The first man replies: “Well, for a while I’ve suspected my wife has been cheating on me, so today I came home early to try to catch her red-handed. As I came into my 25th floor apartment, I could tell something was wrong, but all my searching around didn’t reveal where this other guy could have been hiding. Finally, I went out to the balcony, and sure enough, there was this man hanging off the railing, 25 floors above ground! By now I was really mad, so I started beating on him and kicking him, but wouldn’t you know it, he wouldn’t fall off. So finally I went back into my apartment and got a hammer and starting hammering on his fingers. Of course, he couldn’t stand that for long, so he let go and fell-but even after 25 stories, he fell into the bushes, stunned but okay. I couldn’t stand it anymore, so I ran into the kitchen, grabbed the fridge, and threw it over the edge where it landed on him, killing him instantly. But all the stress and anger got to me, and I had a heart attack and died there on the balcony.”

    “That sounds like a pretty bad day to me,” said Peter, and let the man in.

    The second man comes up and Peter explains to him about heaven being full, and again asks for his story.

    “It’s been a very strange day. You see, I live on the 26th floor of my apartment building, and every morning I do my exercises out on my balcony. Well, this morning I must have slipped or something, because I fell over the edge. But I got lucky, and caught the railing of the balcony on the floor below me. I knew I couldn’t hang on for very long, when suddenly this man burst out onto the balcony. I thought for sure I was saved, when he started beating on me and kicking me. I held on the best I could until he ran into the apartment and grabbed a hammer and started pounding on my hands. Finally I just let go, but again I got lucky and fell into the bushes below, stunned but all right. Just when I was thinking I was going to be okay, this refrigerator comes falling out of the sky and crushes me instantly, and now I’m here.”

    Once again, Peter had to concede that that sounded like a pretty horrible death.

    The third man came to the front of the line, and again the whole process was repeated. Peter explained that heaven was full and asked for his story.

    “Picture this,” says the third man, “I’m sitting naked inside a refrigerator…”

    a blind guy walks into a bar. he sits down and says, “wanna hear a blonde joke?” and the bartender says “listen buddy im blonde and im a boxer and im blonde, the guy next to you is a black belt and hes blonde the guy on you other side is a wrestler and he’s blonde and the guy behind you is a solider and he’s blonde. still wanna tell that joke? the blind guy says nah i wouldn’t wanna explain 4 times

    A blonde made an appointment to see her doctor.
    Upon entering the examination room, her doctor is shocked to see his blonde patient sitting on the exam table with both her ears swollen with pus, and burnt to a crisp.

    “Whoah!” the doctor exclaimed, “What the heck happened to you ?!!”.

    “Well,” the blonde replied, “today is my ironing day and while I was doing that chore, the phone rang, I was so confused that I accidentally put the iron up to my ear instead of the phone!”

    Again, her doctor asked, “Ouch — that must have hurt quite a bit and still does. But before I begin to treat you, I have to ask how your other ear got that way?

    The blonde, looking annoyed at her doctor, said “Can you believe that idiot called me right back??!!

    2 blondes fell in a dark place…
    Blonde 1: Its dark isnt it?
    Blonde2: I dont know I cant see.

  15. She plans on keeping the baby and moving in with the 17 year old and his parents. This 17 year old is a total loser. He used to sell drugs, but now he works at an ice cream shop. He burned a house down when he was 9, and served 4 years in juvi for it. He’s such a pervert that it should be illegal. The first time I met him, he hit on me-right in front of my own daughter! He said that he would love to “stick his dick in my mouth and poke a hole in the back of my head” I was so horrified and embarrassed and angry that I kicked both him and my daughter out. I don’t know why I let her date him in the first place. I really should have put my foot down, but oh well.
    She’s only two weeks pregnant (apparently, my daughter takes a pregnancy test every week “just to be safe.”), so she could abort it, if she wanted to.

    This guy wants to be a part of the picture and help her raise the baby, but he also got another girl pregnant and bailed out on her. (last year, he got a 15 year old girl pregnant.) He also only works part time and lives in his parent’s garage. His father ( who just got out of jail for possession of drugs and 3rd degree rape) is unemployed and beats his wife. I don’t want my daughter in that kind of environment, but I also don’t have the extra room to accommodate a man and a baby.

    I’m at my wits end here. What should I do?

    btw, I’m on my brother’s account. I don’t have a husband

  16. I chnged my religion and married to a muslim.It was a run away mariage and my parents were very against this till 3 yrs until i delvred a baby and was admitted to hsptal and my parents pach up with us. Im married for 3-1/2 yrs and im not happy in my marriage cant tell my mom about this, both of us dont seem to agree with each other and have clash.He even beats me very badly and then will aplgse by SMS nxt day whn im at wrk its a rotine now. I met a guy on phone some time ago of my previous religion and comunity , we bcame frnds and spoke for hrs in absence of my huby told him of my prob he urged me to leave him coz of such abuse, He one day pulled over in front of my office and i got scared and told my hubby that i made a frnd who has pulled over in frnt of my work place to see me he got annoyed and came in evning and spoke to him ,after this my huby forced me not to talk to him any more coz he felt that he was flrt ,itold him not to call me he fnly stoped but i want to b frnds2 him .

  17. There are two men.

    The first, I met 6 years ago. Average height, well built, blue eyes, blonde hair, a real gentlemen who took my breath away. Just the sight of him would make my heart beat in overdrive. We had a relationship for a few months right off the bat, but we split up because I had to move. I just can’t work with long distance.

    After I moved, I met the second man. Taller than most at 6 foot 5 inches, dazzling green eyes, dark hair, slim. Can you say tall, dark, and handsome? His personality wasn’t exactly my type, he was more of a southern gentleman than the first man.

    Although the second man and I started dating, it wasn’t a completely closed relationship. I still spoke with the first man on the phone, through email and text. The second man knew of my reservations but he took it more as a challenge than anything.

    After the first man joined the Marines, we lost touch, except for one letter he wrote to me while he was in boot camp. I read that piece of paper more times than a chaplain reads the word of God. I wrote him back, and later I found out that he never recieved the letter.

    During that time, the second man and I got more serious. We started to say “I love you.” I still felt love for the first man, and every day I thought of him when I fell asleep, wishing that I could call him like I used to, always right before I fell asleep and we’d talk until my mind wound down and I could sleep.

    I love the second man, and I love the first man.

    But here is the kicker: I have two children now with the second man. The first man and I never had sex. This definitely complicates things, but we live in an age of multiple families. Even I am from a split family, both of my parents remarried when I was younger.

    Please help me with this. Although I love the first man, I did indeed fall for another man. Does this mean that I did not love the first man? I am just lost and confused about this.

  18. i mean he has cheated on so many times.so many pictures,with different women including a 25 year old colleague.
    but in public he always shows or maintains that hes such a family guy,hes a family man through and through.when i go to watch him perform he kissed me in the crowds.that he says family time is so important and so valuable.i mean who is his family and then he cheats??
    like spreading news that we are going to Bahamas for a family vacation.he booked a private jet.and he also bought the front row of a theater at an auction.he own s a Bentley and a hummer car.
    no doubt he really loves his daughter,does everything for her,hes a great father to her.
    but the women with whom he was sitting at a hotel when we got married(2007) were all wearing bustiers and had their midriffs and cleavage showing,and later on one of those girls was sitting on his lap while he was shirtless and was showing his wedding ring off.
    the blond girl with whom he was cuddling from behind,had his arms on her chest and neck and was laughing and joking.kissing her head
    being pictured intimately with his close friend of 5 years then thrashed her publicly for being a **** and the 10 men he knows.she slept with.mentioned me saying what he put me through when he overdosed on drugs,how much in laws love him,why i don’t get it.
    he works in a job where he has to be on road most of the time so do you think he has me just coz he needs me to look after the child?
    coz if he wants a divorce he wont be able to take custody of her as he stays on road so how can he take the child under his care??
    does he love me really or hes using me and am i doing the same?/?
    I spend my days getting photographed with my friends in various postures you know like in cars,bedrooms,stadiums wearing sunglasses,clothes etc
    attending public events with him.
    he wanted a child quickly.thought about baby names before marriage
    we are Americans.
    he had this reputation of being a jerk when he was younger but after the birth of our kid he mellowed but after his public outburst of his colleague’s sex life.
    and then on twitter he keeps saying such nice things about me like I am back on twitter ,showing my photo with friends on twitter that I went to a Saturday night show ,saying happy birthday to me on twitter,time needed to be with family after he took a break from work(everything on twitter)
    does he really love me or this is just a public show?
    why does he want to be with me on a holiday when he doesn’t love me at all and cheats?
    is it my fault too?
    am i all about his money?

  19. We live in an apartment, we have one child and another one due in May, and all he does is play video games.
    As soon as he wakes up he grabs the nook and plays a Pokemon game.
    Then he goes in the living room and gets on the Xbox and plays one of his games, and every day I have to remind him that he needs to go to work, and he’ll just say “I know…” In his depressed little, “Poor me, God forbid I don’t get to play games constantly” voice. Even when he goes to work he takes the Nook with him to play games when no one is watching.
    As soon as he gets home, he barely says hi to me, walks right past our daughter, completely ignoring her, grabs a controller, and plops down in front of the TV about 2 feet away and start playing his stupid games.
    I’ve told him that it seems to me that our daughter and my self are last priority to him when it comes to playing video games.
    Our second child is due in May and I’m worried all he’s gonna do is sit around playing video games while I chase after our toddler and try to take care of our new baby.
    And he doesn’t just play video games at our apartment, if we go visit my mom he brings the nook, and a zelda game to play on the wii, as soon as we walk in he runs to the TV and puts in his game, and starts playing, and while the game on the wii loads he plays part of his game on the nook, and we have to drag him away to eat lunch with us, and as soon as he’s scarfed down his food he runs back to the TV and doesn’t pay any attention to my mom and I, let alone our daughter who adores him because she’s too young to realize he doesn’t give a crap about anyone but him.
    I’ve tried playing his games with him, I’ve beat all the assassins creed games, the halo games, diablo, minecraft, borderlands 1 & 2, and while we play he just treats me like I’m some guy friend who it’s okay to yell at when I do something wrong.
    Or while he’s talking to someone else on Xbox live I’m just “the wife”.

  20. My wife and I had a blow out this morning. Over nothing. I wanted to leave the baby in the crib for a few minutes so I could get ready for work. My wife was leaving to take our oldest son to school. She got upset and said leaving the baby in the crib was cruel. I don’t believe that the baby was not crying at all and he had toys to play with. My wife and I got into it. She ended up taking the baby with her with me telling her to stop acting childish and that it is normal to leave the baby in the crib as long as he is not upset. When she got back she and I got into another arguement and my wife then punched me twice as hard as she could and kicked me in the stomach. This happened in front of our one year old son. While none of the strikes hurt me it did make me very
    angry. I have been a victim of bullying when I was younger. It stopped after i put on some muscle and stop being taken advantage of. After she hit me I called her an expletive. This is not the first time she has tried to physically harm me. but the physicality has escalated. It started with small things like pinching as hard as she could. She has ground her heel into my foot as hard as she could stand it. I have never reacted physically but I have gotten upset about this before. She was also a victim of abuse (not by me but from her first husband). I can’t get through to her she won’t admit she did anything wrong she is trying to blame the whole thing on me. I don’t want to involve her family but I am running out of options. I know my temper. I know if this continues I will be pushed to react defensively but I am much stronger and am afraid that I might hurt her. Could any other guy out there help me or gal anyone. I just want her to seek council to work through her anger I love her very much. I also just found out she might have a cancerous cyst but I am so frustrated I don’t know how to feel.

  21. when is enough enough. she has succeeded in alienating his two daughters from me.they didnt even come to our wedding. she used them in the divorce and still uses them now. she neglects their hygeine and appearance. she brought an abusive man into their home and when he beat her up in front of the kids.. she begged for him not leave. when he goes to see them, he is by hisself. now, she created two monsters that she cannot control., so now she wants to start calling over and over and over again for my husband to fix it. but if he does talk to the daughters, she takes the phone from them and starts trying to talk to him about her personal issues. she is lying constantly still about why the kids look the way they do. and still trying to bring the guy that beat her back in the house. she talks bad about me to the daughters to make sure that they dont like me at all. i didnt know that woman like this exist. i would never use my children for sympathy or to get my way. mind games is what she did. he tries to remain civil and polite, but now she is driving him crazy and me. now she is even lying on her kids just to find a way to get on the phone with him. i know she will always be a part of our life, but she is still trying to manipulate the situation for her benefit. she is even going as far as to move them from an affordable housing place (she doesnt work and only gets child support and now has another child) to be closer to us. but the area she is moving too is not good for the kids. he tried to tell her to stop but she is doing it anyway. sorry so long. i basically stay out of it, but its interfering with our home life cause she wont take responsibility for the situation she caused,.
    we’ve called child protective services twice and they do nothing. in ct cps is a joke. they call the parent to say when they are coming first of all. so the parent has time(as he did) to clean up the mess, and coach the kids on what they say and what they better not say… so they did nothing. their mother is a pill popper, does x and is just a mess in general. she tells the kids and him its my fault that the kids hate me. yes, she is teaching the hate……i mentioned getting custody but my husband feels that it would only make the situation worst seeing the job she has done on them already. they dont want anything to do with me and its sad because my son, their little brother asks for his sisters all the time,. I will pray on it and hope that one day she puts her kids best interests before her own. thanks to you all positive posters..
    Annagree- u r so amazingly retarded. u have no idea what damage their mother has done to them. And sometimes its best to do what you can instead of making the situation worse., Yes, we have tried to get help of the courts and child protective services,, they have to follow rules as well. So, please spare me the whole get them out of there. This woman is sick and though I love them and care of the immensely, I dont have any say so about taking them out of the house. I would love for them to come live with us in our home so they can have some stability and support.Oh and you are damn right you hear anger in my voice, Any woman that doesnt put their children first is pathetic to me. When the kids were around me of course they didnt get that vibe, because all my time was spent trying to make them feel comfortable and taking care of them the best I could. And believe me, I did. Their mother has convinced them that hating me is the right thing to do. i dont blame them. its their mother !!!!!
    Annagree- u r so amazingly retarded. u have no idea what damage their mother has done to them. And sometimes its best to do what you can instead of making the situation worse., Yes, we have tried to get help of the courts and child protective services,, they have to follow rules as well. So, please spare me the whole get them out of there. This woman is sick and though I love them and care of the immensely, I dont have any say so about taking them out of the house. I would love for them to come live with us in our home so they can have some stability and support.Oh and you are damn right you hear anger in my voice, Any woman that doesnt put their children first is pathetic to me. When the kids were around me of course they didnt get that vibe, because all my time was spent trying to make them feel comfortable and taking care of them the best I could. And believe me, I did. Their mother has convinced them that hating me is the right thing to do. i dont blame them. its their mother !!!!!

  22. As a child (10) my mom left my dad without any warning all in one day and moved us in with another man while My sister (6) and I were at school. As I was pretty upset when I found out I got really upset and did not want to speak to the new man. He in return slapped me in the face and told me I would not treat him that way. That is when the LONG chain of abuse started. He beat me my sister and my mom every day. He constantly told me how ugly and stupid I was. I had absolutely no self esteem. He also tried sexual abuse a lot. He exposed himself and would slap us until we looked. My mom was terrified to leave him and we were threatened not to tell anyone. It lasted for 7 years until I started dating a guy and after a month or so he witnessed my step dad hit me and said I love you and you will not return to that house. My step dad said he would let my mom sigh for us to get married if in 6 months I would divorce him and take everything he had and come back. I told my b/f his plan and he told me to just go along with it until we were married. We got married the next day. (I was 17) He (24) was 7 years older than me and seemed like my prince charming! He has saved me from such a horrible situation! I thought I was so in love! He made me feel like a real person for once! He made me feel attractive! His family was very against us! They had only met me a couple of times and did not think I was good enough for him and told me that to my face. I will never forget his grandmother telling him (in front of me) “You are jumping into a dark hole with her! She is a baby and has no idea what love is and that we would not last 6 months) We did great for several years and I found out I was preg. At 19. We were all SO excited! Even his family! It would be the first grandchild. Well long story short I miscarried at 9 ½ weeks. We already had the nursery completed. I remember feeling so alone. My husband dealt with it by working extra which left me alone. I remember crawling into the crib with a stuffed animal and squalling my eyes out every day for quite sometime. No one was there for me. Then I found out my husband had an addiction to porn. It was my ultimate goal to get pregnant again! I wanted someone to love me ultimately! Finally a year later it happened! Again… we were thrilled! Found out it was a girl and life was great! Then as she turned a couple of months old. my husband dove into porn and wanted NOTHING to do with me! I was 23 and 110lbs. I have always had a high drive and he went a year and had not as much as kissed me. I was offered a job as a waitress in the evenings and thought this would give me a nest egg so one day My daughter and I could leave and I did not want to take ANYTHING from him but she and I. I started work (at 23)and got tons of attention which shocked me. ME??? ATTENTION??? WOW!!!!!! I finally met this AMAZING guy! He seemed to have it all!!!! I had already been saving to leave my husband when I started falling for this amazing man(33). After a couple of months I let him meet my daughter. She loved him! He offered to help me get out so that’s what I did. He explained to me that he loved kids and he and his ex-wife had tried everything to have their own and they informed him he had a low sperm count so he did not think he could have kids. I LOVE all kids SO much but told him that we have my little girl and I was ok if we did not have any together. Life could not get any better at this time. Then out of nowhere after 3 months of dating BOOM.. I am PREGGERS!!!!!!! I was SO upset at first. IT WAS WAY too soon! He was THRILLED which excited me. We got married at 5 months. Then shortly after I started having heart problems and salt/pressure problems and by the 6th month I was passing out neumorous times a day. I was frustrated and exhausted. I had a 1 ½ year old and now this awful draining pregnancy which took me away from my daughter and NEW husband. I just remember being SO stressed out and tired. The dr’s hospitalized me for precaution at 6 ½ months and said they wanted to induce as soon as tests showed he was ready. At 34 ½ weeks (and a 3 week hospital stay) they induced. Right after birth his lung collapsed and he was flown on a jet in pretty bad condition to a hospital almost 5 hours away. They would not let either of us fly with him so we had to drive. That was the longest trip ever. The dr had already given me pills for stress and depression as I was leaving the hospital. I got there and thought he was dead when we walked into the unit. He was covered completely with a blue sheet with blood splatters on it. I LOST IT!!!!! I could not even speak LITERALLY. I tried and nothing would come out. They informed me that he was ok and that they had inserted a pik line in his navel for blood and tests. We were so far from home, alone, I am still hurting from the delivery and there was no place to sit, we have almost no money and no place to stay. I was a mental wreck! That whole experience was awful and
    and he was in that hospital for over 2 weeks with a rollercoaster ride every day of the docs telling us he is doing much better then them saying he is much worse. Finally he was better and we were released. His daddy was so excited! I was exhausted and had not seen my daughter in several weeks(she had stayed with her grandparents) so I guess when we got home I sort of let daddy take control of new baby and I could FINALLY rest. Well… That was a mistake. Daddy bonded with him so when Daddy went back to work a couple of weeks later, I had a 2 ½ old who had missed me and a newborn that did NOTHING but scream all day everyday! I was going crazy again! I remember days that my husband would walk in the door and I was crying as loud as the baby with a bag packed for me to leave as soon as my husband arrived saying I could not take it anymore. This went on for a while which made me resent the baby in some way because AGAIN I felt abandoned and alone. I started thinking something was wrong and
    took him to the dr neumorous times in which the dr said he is just fussy. That made me so angry. Then he stayed constipated and had colic and finally we wound out he had massive ear infections. It was one problem after another. He got tubes at 2 and things were a little better. He still always wanted Daddy and not me. I in return started saying hateful things to my husband about the baby to try and get his attention. I know now what a bad idea that was but I honestly in some way felt like the baby had been put here to torture me from pregnancy till now. I called the baby HORRIBLE names. As our son gets older the emotions and resentment get worse. Our son is now 5 and been diagnosed with SEVERE adhd. He is taking 40mg of vyvanse and no one would ever know he is medicated if we did not tell them. He is still bouncing off the walls at times. He has NO respect for adults OTHER THAN his daddy and his grandmother (dads mother) His dad says it is my fault and that I have hated him from day

  23. my friends husband beat the crap out of her yesterday and broke her cell phone into a million pieces, because he found a letter she had written to another man. although the letter was suggestive, she never cheated on him. he tells her kids things like ” im sorry i didnt get you a better mommy”, and he calls her names in front of her kids. then they call her those names too. he left the night he beat on her, but he took the phone, disabled the car so she couldnt leave, and took the checkbooks, money, and debit cards. the next day he called her and said he was sorry and that he loves her and wants to work it out.
    he has hit her in the past and she says it hasnt happened before now for almost a year. she says she deserved it because of what she wrote in a letter to another guy, but i cant seem to get her to understand that it was not her fault and that he will do it again. also he told her that he was going to kill her the day he beat the crap out of her. im worried that hes going to make good on this threat and kill her. oh one more thing she has 3 small boys and this all took place in front of them. if anyone has a good way for me to help her please let me know.

  24. I keep seeing all these questions from Women saying the same thing,”What is wrong with my marriage and how do I fix it?”. How have they missed whats right there in front of them the whole time? Marriage starts out as a power struggle, men just think they have it and want it. Women know who really has the power. They do. Women set the limits for everything else in their homes,why don’t they set limits on their husbands and enforce them with punishment when they are exceeded? Look,I used to be the guy who went out til all hours of the night,chased other women and caused my beautiful Wife a lot of anguish and pain. Until one night I came home and everything changed for the better. My Wife had had enough and decided it was high time I found out just who was really in charge in the house. She understood I was acting out and needed to be shown the error of my ways. Yes, She put me over Her knee and blistered by butt so bad I was crying by the 20th smack and ready to do anything She told me to do by the 50th one. She really got off on the oral sex She made me do after She was done beating my butt. Now I’m much calmer,don’t act out anymore and keep her very happy in the bedroom. I live to serve Her and will do anything She tells me to because I now know that She is superior to me in every way. Her friends noticed the change in me and asked Her just what magic She had that brought the changes about. My Wife was more than happy to not only tell them what She had done,She gave them a demonstration with me taking 100 licks from Her hairbrush on my bare backside. I then was given some commands that I had to do to Her liking or it was back over Her knee for 100 more swats. Her friends were all amazed at the intensity of her three orgasms! And at my ability to withstand another 100 licks on my behind. I have to go over Her knee every other day to “maintain” the teachings She has instilled in me and to make sure I remember just who is in charge in this house. My Wife wanted to share this with other Women so I offered to serve her by writing this for Her.

    Why don’t more Women take charge,punish their husbands and get some peace in their lives?

  25. I’ve had the WORST past when men, To me they are all EVIL, Cold hearted, Selfish And get away with everything. They also THINK that they own women and women should give up their life for them. They do nothing, They don’t give birth yet women and their children take hes last name, They cheat, They try to think all women are wh*res. All rapists, Child molesters, Wife beaters, Gang members are men (Well about 90% +)

    Not only that I’ve also had the worst experiences with them.

    One time when I was younger I was staying over night at my aunts house because it was my parents anniversary and I went downstairs to see my aunt with my 2 cousins because we was scared and her husband had a knife to her throat!!!!!!!!!!!

    And one time when I was at my friends house after school and we went to put things in the her basement and her step dad had tied her mother up, Put petrol around her and lit a fire. Thankfully she survived. He also raped a child so hes in prison now.

    Last month my dad was so mad at my brother for not doing hes homework that he set the house on fire, I was in bed so I didn’t see. And hes always shouting at me and moaning about anything and making me cry.

    And my moms best friend came to our house the other day and her husband didn’t know she went out so he came over with 2 big dogs and Tried to knock down our door. My dad had to stop him. And another time when she was at a party he came over, Interrupted the party and started beating her in front of everyone!

    And the other day it was my aunts birthday and we were at a restaurant and she was blowing out the candles to her cake and these 3 drunk guys said to her “You fat sl*t, I bet all you want is the cake!” (she is overweight but stilll!!!!! we didn’t even know them)

    I was always bullied by boys in school. This boy would always hit me and call me names for no reason!!!!!

    And my aunt who has 5 sons was crying to me saying “When I was younger I always wanted sons but I would do anything for God to have given me 5 daughters” All of her sons sell drugs and beat their girlfriends. Not only 1 of her sons do, All 5 of them do. Her and one of her sons had an argument because he got a girl pregnant and because he was mad, When she went out, He went into her house, Got every family picture she has and set them on fire!

    And one day my aunt woke up and her husband wrote a note telling her hes moved in with his new girlfriend and he never wants to see her or their 2 kids again (hes daughter who is 13 and hes son who is 17) How could you throw all that away after all those years?!

    I don’t respect men because of this. Please help me not hate them soooooo much. What can I do? Do you blame me for hating them when I have these experiences. They were just half of my experiences) I don’t even like male kids because of this and if I had a son I would probably put it up for adoption
    Max: Your a f*cking C*NT. Just another guy. Sad bastard, Just because you got cheated on! hahahahahaha, Men cheat wayy more!

  26. and why, how depends?
    how common this happens too and why?

    what most husbands would think or do, say after too to their wives and why?
    would this be the ultimate humiliation for any husband in front of their wives? why?
    would this be the ultimate humiliation for any husband in front of their wives? why?

  27. Why is it that we have double standards while pushing for equality?
    (As a guy) I am all FOR equality. On ALL areas, Business, Social etc. etc.
    So here are the cases I am on about.

    1) Why do women get lower pay? (I believe people get what they earn. If a woman does the same work as a man, she should get the same pay)

    2) Why is it men say “you can’t hit a woman.”? It Seems to me that it’s just hidden sexism. Like woman can’t take the same punch as a man can… simply because she is a girl. (I am not for woman beating mind you. I just find that sexist in it’s own right.”

    3) When men assault women, he is a monster. And when women assault men, he is a pussy. Why do people think like this? (And don’t tell me the *majority* don’t because they do.)

    4) What is it women want when being hit on in front of their boyfriend/husband/fiance’? (If you stand up and say “hey that’s my Girlfriend/wife/fiance’” you could come off as possessive and see her as property, and if you do nothing, it might be seen as, you not finding her worth sticking up for.)

    5) Why do men feel as though they need to earn more then their spouse/GF/Fiance’? (I understand that men like to feel dominant in the relationship. After all that is in our genes. But why is it hard to accept that a woman can make more?)

    6) and finally. Why can’t you tell a woman she is fat, but a woman can criticize you all she wants? (Is it because women are sensitive? Another sexism that thrives in our Society?)

    Please tell me your thoughts. :)
    #2) & #3) *Expanding* Is it because men are stronger then women? Is it to say that men are actually Superior to women in some way? Can we admit that we are not equal in every regard?

  28. After a conflict and a silent treatment from her for hours, when I confront my wife, she says – “I want to beat you” in front of our 3 year old daughter. Then she asks the kid to beat me. The kid is innocent and takes it as a fun and really hits me. I don’t mind that. However, I feel insulted and what makes it worse is the fact that the kid can understand that daddy has done something wrong (irrespective of what the conflict was and who was really incorrect). Is this behavior appropriate from a wife/mom? It is kind of tarnishing my image of Daddy.
    Of course, I have no grudge when we all are playing and laughing. This is about when ambiance is tense and there has been discomfort in the air for several hours. The kid knows that. :(

  29. I feel so bad even asking this here but I feel so trapped. But I don’t feel comfortable talking to anybody about this. I am so confused I don’t know how to deal with these feelings. I love him, I care about him, and I like hanging out with him but I no longer want to be intimate with him. I feel awkward when we do have sex and I don’t really enjoy it. Its just not exciting. Its boring and I don’t get turned on by him. I feel like we are eventually going to separate but just the thought of it makes me feel sad. I just don’t know what to do.He is very sweet and mild tempered. We argue but even though it seems like we solve things, in reality we get no where. I have given up so much to be with him but he does not make any sacrifices or even little changes for me, not because he doesn’t care about me but because he is just so comfortable being the way he is.
    I feel like I made a mistake marrying him. I have realized that we are so different. He does not enjoy half the things that I love. I am a very social person and I like hanging out with friends but he is more of a homely guy. He will watch TV all day and be happy and while I don’t mind watching TV, I cannot watch it all day. Another thing that bothers me is that he does not take care of himself. It seems as though he does not care about his appearance. Also, he never, and I do mean never, compliments me on anything. I get compliments all the time from other guys but i don’t care about them i want to hear them coming from him. Well I’m going to stop here. I hope someone can take the time to read this and can be so kind to help me. Please be honest. I don’t mind brutal honesty.

  30. My ex husband was emotionally abusive and left me for another woman on our sons first birthday after 12 years together. Wasnt the first affiar either and he used drugs…we are co parenting well so all good there, it was over 3 years ago…
    I met another guy, we were friends for over a year before I started anything. I thought this time I was being careful and chosing right guy. He was single, divorced, his wife cheated on him, no kids, so I thoguht no baggage. He started getting controlling, turning into verbal abuse…calling me names infront of my son, screaming at me in the car for going the wrong way in front of my son.
    Stupidly, Im 16 weeks pregnant….I was never meant to fall pregant, my son is IVF. Ive just asked him to leave as he isnt hearing how his verbal abuse had broken my trust and connection with him and that I am not a subservient wife…he says he is “sorry” but says I make him get so angry cos I dont listen…yes I push his buttons but I dont think that is an excuse..
    So Ive asked him to leave today but ALSO, I just sold my house for him…now I will be homeless and will have to buy something smaller and crap than my much loved home :-(
    How could I have been so stupid??

  31. I have a boyfriend and had one for almost years(just felt like i had to say that.but before him,i had my high sweetheart.we were together for almost two years too.but we were too immature at the time and messed things up.i admit it was my fault because i had an anger problem and i let it get the best of me.i used to beat on him and i hate myself for it.it was wrong and i have changed for the better now but i still cant forgive myself for acting that way.he ended up getting with a girl two years older and got her pregnant an married her.he has called me from time to time and has always stayed in touch since they even got together.a month ago,he told me he loved me and he was pressured to get married.i told him i loved him too and always would and i was sorry for how i had treated him in the past.i told him i dont think we should talk anymore.i dont want to stir his feelings further from his wife and mess up a marriage.plus,a child is involved.we havent talked in almost two months now but i have a feeling one day(even if its days months years) he will call me again.i still think of him alot but i dont call or text him.do you guys ever wonder what a relationship could have been if a few things were done differently?also,doesnt it suck that you cant just make your heart get over or stopping loving someone?how can i ever forgive myself for how i acted in the past to make him run into the arms of another woman?advice please

  32. Please dont judge me but i need help..i grew up in a bad environment, me, my brother and mom were beat by my dad, they split up when i was 7 and i constantly went to my grandparents home and they were very religious. i loved being around that, i felt loved and understood. i moved in with them when i turned 15 but only for a year because soon after i got baptized i rebelled. and i understood why i rebelled, i know the devil threw a bunch of temptations in my face and it wasn’t a coincidence, he just didnt want me to be God’s child. in my “rebellion stage”, i wasnt doing anything too bad but i didnt include God in my life really, so i know that is pretty bad. at that moment in my life my grandparents seemed ashamed of me and i understood why they should be so i barely talked to them anymore and my mom didnt want me living with her because her new boyfriend pretty much brain washed her a couple years back and he didnt like me or my brother. anyway, i met a guy one night and didnt have nowhere to stay so i went home with him to his sisters house and spent the night, and from that day on me started dating and we’ve been together every since that day til now. its been 4 years so far. we have 2 kids now, he is in the U.S Army but we’ve been struggling with problems every since the 2nd year we been together. after 1 1/2-2 yrs of being with him I been feeling like God is calling me back and i been ignoring him for too long, he is in my heart and always have been and i really want God a part of my life. i told my husband about this and he said cool. the thing is everytime i start reading the bible and try to share the word with him, he starts acting funny so i ask him why is he getting bothered and from there things start to kinda heat up and i know thats satan’s work right there trying to make us argue or agree to leave God out of our lives bcuz that is the only time me and him are kind of at peace. so i leave the subject alone and finally talk to him about how i feel and he says he wants to go to church with me and change our lives and live through Christ. but we never end up going bcuz he always says hes not ready…but when is he ever gona be ready?? i dont wana push him to go bcuz i kno that will only pull him away and only frustrate him. thats not even the worst of our problems. our first yr of being together he always disrespected me by flirting with other girls in front of my face and looking at their butt in front of me and flirting with other girls online, and always watched pornography even after we had sex after i went to sleep and i saw all the evidence..etc but he never cheated on me…(i know its a sin to have sex before marriage but this was b4 i even decided to live through christ). but yea all those things he would do would make me feel so bad and it lowered my self confidence and self-esteem and one day i cheated on him n i felt so sorry and bad and hated myself and i told him the very next day and he forgave me. it was around that time where i wanted to give my life to God, but its been a struggle since bcuz he is never ready and i told him im not gona wait for him forever, i want my kids living through christ too and its hard when i want it and he doesnt or “isn’t ready”. and on top of that we argue alot but the arguments arent bad tho. and another thing is that through all of this, i fell out of love with him and its been almost 2 yrs since that happend. i love him, just not inlove with him. and he cusses and listens to nasty music around the kids and he still has an addiction to pornography. this has always been an issue for us. he doesnt mean to cuss tho bcuz he always says ooopps or im sorry. but other than that, we can be the bestest friends ever, and get along great and also have the same interests in everything and since day one we always felt like we were eachothers half and always know wat eachother is thinkin without saying it. the relationship was rushed i admit. but deep down i know things are not right or how they should be. i just dont know what to do. we barely have that connection, chemistry, or sex anymore and i dont even care about that but im just trying to point out that we are falling apart but i been trying to hold this marriage together. he doesnt want me to leave him and i dont want to either bcuz i love him so much and i dont want my kids living without a father like i did. and also i know God doesnt like divorce but at the same time i dont want to be depressed all the time and i dont want my kids living in an environment where we are arguing alot etc. my son is 2 and a half and my daughter is10 months. I also wanted to know, How do i find out if it was God who joined us 2gether or if it was me and him and lust? how do i know if it is best to stay or leave? i read the bible, prayed, and asked him to give me signs etc. im not sure what he is trying to tell me. How do i know if its really God talkn to me or if its just my consciou

  33. Friday I had to work late and it was my weekend to get the kids. My ex-wife’s new husband, who has harassed my family repeatedly, was dropping off the kids. He will not allow my ex-wife to do it. My ex wife’s parents were there also. In front of my children they continue to harass my sister to the point of her sobbing throwing up. She called the police and they left with a quickness. Is there a way that I can get a court order where this doesnt happen any more? This man has called my house, my work, and my mom’s cell phone harassing us many times in the past.

    My oldest son, 8 years old, has told me that he gives them “spankings” when my ex tells him to stop that it wasnt his job. Now he says that she just threatens them with “if you dont stop he is going to spank you.”

    My sister also saw my ex at a wal mart 2 days before this incident. She went ahead and apologized for his actions in advance because, and i quote, “he is very controlling.” They talked and she said it will be the both of them dropping the kids off. My sister told her she will pick them up since I will have to work late that day.

    When it was time to drop off the kids, I called a policeman to “stand by” in case another incident happened.

    What should I do? This man “prohibits” my ex-wife to drop off the kids or have any contact with me regarding the children. My children were crying, telling me they didnt want to go back home. I know he doesnt beat them(at least that is what my son has told me). He said it is just a slap on the butt. They were so sad when I told them I was going to drop them off with their step-father so they can go back home with their mom. They told me they didnt want to go home.

    Now this was my first weekend with them in 8 months.(it was the best ever) I had to get an attorney due to the fact that my ex moved in with guy without giving me any contact information. Also this man contacted my mother telling her that the children were no longer a part of my family and we would never see them again. I stopped that with a quickness when I got an attorney and had them served.

    I need to know what I need to do in this situation.
    Uck Fu if I kicked his ass I would get an assault charge and loose my kids.

    And my ex wasnt the one crying. It was my sister when they harassed her.

  34. My husband has a child wit an ex that Is 3years old. His ex is literally Crazy. She has spit in his face n punched him n the face when he has tried to c the child. She doesn’t want the child around me and she hs threatened to beat me up. I’m really irritated with her. Her mindset is that of a child. He pays child support and literally hasn’t spent quality time with his child since infant years.

  35. Hi everyone. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Following this weekends events I am very confused about how I should react towards him.

    This weekend he saw me talking to another man he didnt know and he blew up completely. He grabbed me, shoved me, told me he wished I would get hit by a bus and worst of all he spat in my face. All of this done in public sphere. (In front of our close friends).

    Straight away i thought that’s it, don’t stay with someone like that. But after our time not talking i’ve been thinking. He has NEVER acted like this at all. He is the kind of guy who is afraid to swear at a woman. I’ve always felt 100% safe around him. He never loses his temper & the fact he got mad at the smallest thing makes me wonder what’s going on? I have known him for almost 5 years. This is the first sign of anything remotely violent/abusive. Never been any complaints about him from anyone.

    He’s been calling me absolutely devastated. He feels awful and he doesn’t understand why he got so out of control. He refers to himself as ‘a disgusting repulsive scumbag’ and he won’t stop crying. I’ve told him not to talk to me until he has seen someone and he agrees he thinks he needs too.

    What do I do? Do I take him back? Do I never talk to him again? Is it acceptable for me to forgive him? Is this the first step to a wife beater? I’m so flipping confused. He is not on any drugs. We share our whole lives. We are best friends. He is also not on any medication. He doesn’t drink heavily.
    This is why I am so shocked, i feel so comfortable around him. We get along so well. Argue about silly things, been faithful to each other. Almost perfect. Why did this happen? He had been drinking, but not much.

  36. So the girl my husband cheated with is causing me serious problems. My x-husband and I have a daughter who is almost 3 years old. This girl was my best friend and his best friends wife….disgusting I know. Anyways we are past that part my main issue is that my daughter has known her since she was born. This girl and my x have been denying that they have ever been together since we separated yet my daughter talks about her all the time when she comes home and says she sleeps with her in bed and what not. She also says that she came out of this girls belly and she is her baby not mine. Now my daughter is two and a half. The only way she would say something like that is if she is being told that. She says off the wall things like that. I have confronted my x-husband about it. He and the other girl state that she is NEVER there when my daughter is there and they are just friends. They are trying to make my daughter look like a liar—-I never ask my daughter about the other girl. She talks about her only because she loves her to some extent and from what she knows what daddy and her were doing while mommy was at work was okay. But this woman is putting things in my daughters head that are not correct. How would you handle the situation without “beating a biotch” lol. I really want this to be as adult as possible yet they both are very juvenile about the situation.This girl texts me for him. Personally I wish he would move out of the state with her and I could be a single mom without these issues because it truly hurts my feelings he is allowing another woman on my motherly territory. I want nothing from him other than to be a good parent to his daughter. –Only serious answers please.
    I already filed for divorce—yet in the papers I put her in there to NOT be around my daughter and he would not sign unless I took her off. We made an agreement that as long as they were respectful to my child and the situation I was okay with it. Yet it has only gotten worse…should I go back to my attorney to start this up again. I truly believe it is affecting my daughter.
    Thanks to everyone! I am a strong woman. I am just more concerned with my child and her thoughts. I never grew up in this situation nor did I want her to have too. I know he will have many women in and out. Yet we just have different views when it comes to this. I am dating a guy—yet he has never been around her only because I don’t want her to become attached if it doesn’t work out or question what he is to her unless I know its something that is possibly an everlasting thing. Thanks again!

  37. go for it
    show me what you got
    haha blonde jokes me me laugh the most

  38. I have an ex that used to beat me, I only called the cops on him once and that was the end of our relationship.
    I want to know if this “man” decides to file for custody, what will his chances be? I absolutely do NOT ever want him to take my children out of this state to his. They are 1.5 and 2.5 years old. He doesn’t send child support for my children or his others. He has a total of five, two are over 18.
    What are the chances that if he decided to, a judge would grant him any type of custody?
    Thanks.

    I have cussed him out a few times in text messages telling him that he is a woman beating dead beat daddy. I also have told him to quit messaging me because I am tired of all his aggravation and threats. He wants to call them at night when they are asleep but won’t call them on his one day off a week because that is the day he spends with his girlfriend.

    The police had been to our house twice. Once I called, once a neighbor called due to my screams. I didn’t know he was abusive beforehand, he started abusing me while pregnant. Thanks for trying to be harsh.
    I do have plenty of emails with dates and pictures from all of the bruises. I even have an email/text where he told me “if you would learn to just keep your mouth shut, I wouldn’t have to hit you.”
    Does anyone else really think a judge would give partial custody to a man who hasn’t paid his ordered support on another child in years? Works cash jobs so he doesn’t have to pay? Beats his g/f? Smokes weed?

    No, I am not a druggie. Never done anything like that and never even drank.

    He hasn’t seen my children in a year and has barely seen any of the others. And not to mention lives 1000 miles away from where his children currently live. And also, I read on the web that if he ever did decide to file, he would have to do it up here since we have lived here for a year, is that correct?
    Sorry this is so long. If you have anything jerk like to say, save yourself the time.

    Also, I currently do not have a job and am living with my grandmother. I am in school to be a nurse. Last year, I was off of work for a couple of weeks because I was having a miscarriage that was long and drawn out but when it was time to go back to work, he didn’t want to help me watch the kids so needless to say I was fired.

  39. Okay well I am going through a divorce. My soon to be ex husband was very physically violent. There is a lot more to the story though. Im confused and have a couple questions. I will give some examples. Okay one time we were at an amusement park and we were in line and we had been waiting for a long time and this girl comes up and her dad is in the line beside us. He tells her that she can cut in front of us and I was like wtf bc he is always telling me how cutting in line is rude and blah blah. okay so another time he took me to the movies and he had opened the door for me, I walked through it and kept walking. I was in the parking lot and noticed he wasnt beside me. I looked back and he had been standing there holding the door letting tons of girls walk through. the he was the damn door holder or something. Now holding it open for someone behind you is courteous, but standing there just holding it while your wife walks to the car by herself is weird. I couldnt hardly get him to talk in public to me. He would sit there and act hateful yet be nice as pie to the waitress? who was in no way prettier than me. He was beating me at home and acting this way. Guys why was he like this? Is it normal?He barely ever opened doors for me yet would always open doors for girls at public places. Oh and with my daughter(which isnt his biologically) he would play a little with her at home but not a lot and then we would go to family things and he would be playing a ton with everyone elses kid but mine? wtf.
    selfish, rude, and jealous huh?! HE F*CKING BEAT ME! IF anyone wants to say some stupid Sh*T like that then plz dont respond. I have been in a shelter bc of him. Me and my daughter have been through hell and back bc of this evil man!
    lol i hate my ex i just wanted answers. hes insane

  40. I was 14 years old when I met him. He was 15 and I saw him across the skating rink. He was so cute so I thought I should say hi. So I did, I blurted it out in front of the whole arena, and alot of people looked at me and laughed but he said helllo back before he continued skating by. *PALM TO FOREHEAD*

    I saw him again later that day, I was skating around and staring at him. He was so cute. Before I knew it, I smashed into another kid and fell down hard. Praying the cute boy didn’t see how clumsy I was, I looked up, and there he was, hand extended, offering me help back up. It signifies our relationship. He has always been there for me, helping me back up when life knocks me down….

    He’s been a wonderful boyfriend, and an even better friend. We laugh we smile, we cry and fight. More importantly, we love unconditionally. He is great with children and amazing at fixing things and working on computers. He is ambitious and successful and the man I want to be with for the rest of my life. After Graduating highschool in 2010, I told myself I was going to marry him someday, but it was never any more then words…..

    Now here I am, 21 years old, he is 22. We have been dating about 7 years and never had a nasty breakup get backtogether type of relationship. It’s been wonderful.

    He recently moved into his own apartment. I go over there all the time, Last night, he got down on one knee, and told me he wanted to start a life with me and asked me to marry him.

    Now I have this georgious ring on my finger, given to me by the most amazing man in the world. I have been packing my things and planning to move in with him this weekend, we are financially stable and both have good jobs. We can afford it. That’s not the problem.

    As moving day gets closer and closer, I could just pee my pants. I AM TERRIFIED to give my heart away. I already did technically, but im scared that I did it.

    What if it really is too good to be true? What made me so lucky to have found one of the rare guys who actually are perfect. Sweet, kind, forgiving, trustworthy. ETC….

    I am scared. How can I get over this? Its a big step, It’s one I WANT to take, but yet I am still so scared…..

    My mother had 2 kids, met my dad, got pregnant 2 more times, broke up (never married btw) and then had a drunken one night stand which resulted in me. My mother took off after my father refused to be okay with her having an abortion. But she came back, left me with my dad after I was born, then left again and I never met her. My dad was an alcoholic and abusive. I never witnessed true love. I never even was told by my own dad he loved me. I grew up without it. Without knowing of it. My older brother and sister both married and divorced and headed right into jail for different reasons. Then my other sister met a guy and got pregnant, and my brother is REALLY mean to his girlfriend. Im the only one who found a great guy, and like I said, it scares the pee out of me.

    I have NEVER seen a sucessful relationship. My grandmother whom I currently live with got a divorce because her husband beat her too. Just like my dad did to me. Like father like son right?

    So never seeing or experiencing ANY love at all, how could I be worthy of the love this man has for me. He told me “I want a life with you. I want you here with me so I can hold you whenever I want, and protect you ever time you need someone to protect you. I want to keep you safe, and you’ll always be safe in my arms, will you please do me the honor, of becoming my wife, so that I can prove to you just how much I love you, everyday, for the rest of my life!” I said yes with tear filled eyes.

    I am so scared. Someone please reasure me that good things can happen to good people. I don’t want my marriage to fail. Abandonment is my biggest fear in life :(

  41. I have been married 13 years. We now have 4 kids together. The first 5 years were terrible.We were seperated for almost 1 year, then reconciled. The reason our first 5 years were terrible were because he cheated on me and I didn`t find out until we were married. Then found out he had a kid. Only because I pushed him to find out the truth about this kid he denied. I forced him to take paternity test after we reconciled truly because I thought this broad was lying the entire time. Anyways he changed his behavior, went to college and got his career going. Things were ok, of course until every freaking month this broad kept trying to contact him and just starts drama. I was resentful because I trusted he was telling me the truth and gave up alot to be with him. When we were 17 I left my home.We both knew I couldn`t go back. And yes he took full advantage of that. Then few years back he began drinking and that was a problem for me too. I basically took care of my kids alone. He would stay up late drinking and sleep the entire next day. After struggling through that we moved into a house, nice neighborhood, big step for us. Then the partying is still going on, his brother of 25 yrs of age moves in with us against my will. No job, nothing. He needed a place to stay, but we never hear from him unless he needs something or a place to stay. Thats another story! Anyways he paid more attention to his bro, I worked from 8-8 and on weekend when I was working I had to have my brother in law and my sister take my boys to basketball game because he would`t even do that. I would come home and both asswholes would be home doing nothing but watching tv or playing xbox.What really set me off was when I was at work I got a call from my cousins wife saying that this girl on myspace contacted her and wanted to let everyone know that my husband was a dead beat dad, that had another kid with her and doesn`t take care of him. She contacted all my friends to let them know. I tried to avoid this situation with this broad but she kept on and kept on….She did this 2 yrs prior but to only my best friend. This time she told everybody. So yes with his ignorant bro in my house and this shit going on, I was tired of all this shit.I told him to leave. They both left. I met this guy, we talked alot and it was more emotional connection. Someone I could talk to with no bullshit between us. He knew I was married, and just got seperated. He also recently got seperated.
    When my husband found I ws talking to this guy he went off, He did everything in his power to get back with me. I care for him but am not in love with him. I hate to see him hurting, it really tears me up. He also told me that if we didn`t stay together he would stay away from our kids. I love my kids. they are my world. They are 2 preteens and 2nd grade and prek. I convinced myself it was best to stay. He changed completly, started doing things around the house, with kids, he even kept up with himself as far as haircuts and shaving. Before this he Never did any of this. That lasted a few months, and so did everything all together. Then arguing began, because noe he was resentful of what happened. We agrued all the time it got to a point where I was depressed and stopped talking to everyone, friends even family. Now I just can`t seem to make myself stay in this relationship. I tried, but everything he does pisses me off. I stayed with him because for one my kids and another enjoyed him doing things for us for a change. It was nice to have a real man at home instead of having 5 kids to take care of. We just had a huge arguement and he turned to my child who had recently struggled with seperation anxiety and tells her that “your daddy is leaving because your mama doesn`t want him anymore” He was screaming and yelling at me in front of her. Im afarid my boys are at that age (preteens) where this would effect them, I don`t want them to start getting into trouble, because of things that happen at home? I know also this is not healthy to stay, I cannot financially afford my house and vehicle alone either. Ive thought about just leaving then we would be with my grandmother in her 2 bdrm home with myself and 4 kids? Im exhausted thinking about this over and over each day? Please any advise?????????????

  42. This is sorta ironic but someone I know is moving to a new mansion, etc… Anyway he told me that he just learned that his wife has been purchasing stuff and not telling him. Expensive stuff like shoes, handbags, clothes, and jewelry. He said “I can’t tell the difference between one dress to another shirt to a pair of shoes to a necklace…” he however does notice her handbags (mind you they are like $800-$1500!!!) Ironically he told me he made a very large purchase ($2,000) last year and never disclosed it.

    Granted I will say their combined salary is at least $130,000 a year. They both have high paying jobs and I know he just got a $10,000 year end bonus. No kids yet. So maybe its not as critical. Still its the act of hiding.

    Now a total opposite situation. I had known someone that had a gambling addiction and he hid it for a few years from his wife until the bookies came knocking at their front door! They didn’t beat him up or anything they just wanted to ask for re-payment. That situation led to divorce because all that time this guy stopped paying all his bills. So…

    But at the office I was shocked to learn how many women hide purchases from their husbands. I’m talking purchases upwards to $1,000! BUT its not just a one-way street. Men do the same thing.

    Is it really this common? Most of the people I talk to about this tell me that they are financially OK or not in any trouble so… I can see a bigger prob if the person stopped paying bills, in collections, etc… and is spending money behind their sig other’s back. Especially when they have kids.

    So is it common? If so is this a “don’t ask – don’t tell” situation when either spouse can “afford” it? Just think its an interesting topic as the people I work with started talking about it.

  43. 2am this morning i found this drunk guy sleeping on my porch. as i was talking to the cops he woke up and started wandering around in my enclosed porch. my husband and the police arrived minutes later and the police took him away. has anything like that ever happened to you?
    i tried waking him up and he wouldnt wake up. its 0 degrees out here so i was scared he was going to freeze to death.

  44. and why, how depends?
    how common this happens too and why?

    what most husbands would think or do, say after too to their wives and why?
    what could be more humiliating for a husband and why?

  45. When we were going to my wife’s church her pastor every time he would see us asked when we would be getting married. This started in the second month of us dating and knowing each other. I would tell him that we weren’t ready to get married as of yet. We didn’t have the resources to get married, and emotionally we just weren’t ready for marriage.

    His badgering kept on for another 5 months. I would always give him the same answer. His reply was always that we could just go to the courthouse and it would cost $100. That we didn’t need to be ready emotionally for marriage, that we loved each other and that’s all that was needed. Our fighting issues which developed 4 months into our relationship would resolve themselves when we would make things right in front of God (he didn’t believe in having a boyfriend or girlfriend, that the Bible only says to go out and find a wife or husband).

    Well, we got married 7 months into our relationship. Our fighting never did go away and no we have the added issues of marriage. We just passed our 1 year anniversary and we continue to argue and fight. We just do not know how to be married. We both grew up in broken homes. We never had what a loving and honoring marriage looked like and certainly not a Godly one.

    We have tried counseling and it didn’t help. We were going to a counselor at a local church, but he stopped making appointments for us. He was the only free one that we could see. Neither of our insurances cover marriage counseling and we can not afford to pay for it ourselves. We both see separate counselors, since our insurance will cover that, but it doesn’t seem to be helping at all.

    Nor do I think it really will. What we need to learn is how to be husband and wife. Something we never had modeled for us growing up. We don’t know how to resolve conflicts without arguing. We don’t know how to do many things that loving married couples do and don’t seem to have a problem with. Our church doesn’t have marriage mentors, nor does any other church that I have called in and around our area.

    We are not looking to divorce, but we don’t know what else to do. Just stopping the arguing isn’t an option since the root cause is still there.

    What can we do? Does anyone have any answers?
    I should mention that we have stopped going to the church where her pastor is.
    Divorce for anything other than infidelity is wrong in our eyes.
    beeb, we actually did read the 5 love languages. My main is physical touch which she does not really do. She hates to cuddle, hates to hold my hand and even rub her hand across my shoulder. Her main is acts of service, which I was already doing. She has MS which complicates things, but I was doing everything around the house so that she didn’t have to and other acts of service.

    Any other books?
    rm, I asked her about her hands. She doesn’t get pain in her hands like you mentioned. Her hands are pain free. Now her feet, that’s a different story altogether.

    Either way, I can’t help what my love language is anymore than I can about the fact that I need air to breathe. I crave physical touch because that’s what my love language is. I have compromised much because I don’t bother her about it.
    rm, I do understand to the extent that a person without MS can. I don’t badger her about not touching me. When I said she doesn’t do it, I was only stating a fact. I don’t hound her about it.

    Is it rough that I don’t get touched the way I crave? Sure is, but I live with it.

    She knows that I am there for her and support her with her MS. She actually thanked me for being able to be her voice when she needs it.
    For those beating me up over the decision, you do realize that we recognize the mistake that we made? Beating us into the ground for it doesn’t nothing to help.

    We need constructive criticism and ideas. rm has been a big help!

  46. My ex wife ran off with another guy 7 years ago,got remarried to him and has constantly made my life hell.She has blocked all avenues of contact with my 2 kids and has hounded me with the CSA,even though she ran off she just cant let go and allow me to get on with my life.Txts on Valentines day wishing me happy valentines day,happy birthday etc etc etc.
    She has even had a kid with this guy and flaunts the newborn in front of my family members,why?????
    Cant she just move on and let me get on with my life?

  47. Before we married and before baby we had sex often. Since birth of our baby 4 months ago, we had sex like 3 times AND ONLY coz i approached him. When i asked him about it he says its because he’s so tired from work (he does manual work – not office job). I wait for a day he comes home early hoping we can go to bed early, but he’d rather watch tv with his family (we stay with his family) where he falls asleep late at night. And also I’m too shy to ask him to go to bed instead, for fear of another rejection. So i join the family in front of tv wishing things were different. Baby sleeps in between us at night, dont know if that changes things. I havent put on weight during pregnancy and regained my pre-pregnant slim athletic figure almost immediately after the birth. I notice other men in the streets who notice me so I figure I’m at least still attractive enough for a ‘good time’. Tonight I mentioned to him (while watching tv… yeah) that I am horny hoping to give him a heads up on whats to come. I planned to dress up in lingerie and seduce him. But he went right to the bed after the movie, said goodnight and went straight to sleep before you could say ‘sensual seduction’. He has started working alot harder since expecting baby in order to provide for us. But all his spare time is spent on his family instead of trying to be with me. I figure if he really wanted me, he’d make time and effort. Just like he did before we got married. We were busy in parking lots at 2am on a weeknight for crying out loud! He says he’s still attracted to me, but its hard to believe that. especially when he doesnt even try to satisfy me when i tell him I’m horny! thats about as straight-forward as it gets. No beating about the bush, no hinting – just the truth. Dont guys always say they prefer it like that? what could be wrong? All the men out there, please advise.

  48. i am 30 yr old female married for 6 yrs with 32 old guy. he has been deceptive & selfish since after marriage.

    Before marriage i was in love with my collegemate but he ditched me, so i went in depression & dropped my job & wanted to commit suicide. moreover my mom n bro beat me for this to make me feel more insulted. So i hate them till today.
    I told this to my hubby but he took advantage n try to be nice to my family n ignore me. he didnt touch me for 2 yrs and had romance with his friends wife & insulted me among his society friends for her. so everyone thought he love her & not me. that lady abused me openely & i couldnt do anything. i became more depressed & started antidepressants for 2 yrs. my career is ruined as i feel less worthy & a person whom anyone can insult. i told wverything to my parents but they just listened everything & couldnt do anything & still show respect to my hubby.
    now my parents & hubby are increasing this depression of mine by more family politics. My husband always flirt with other ladies whereever we are in the world & show no respect towards me. he even flirt with 55 yr old ladies. if noone in the house he put reference of my sisters & his old crushes & avoid to talk to me, this make me think that he find me unworthy compared to others. he do this to extensive level. even itried to kill myself but he said silly girls can do this, not a major thing.

    now we live in another country than his & my family, but visist our family every yr. I sponsored my paretns to us for 3 month but after coming here, my mother flirted with my hubby to get monetary favour from him & ignored what he has done to me. my father looked at me sexually & beat me in front of hubby to keep me quiet. i got them out of the country through police. after going back they told eveyone that itried to seduce my father.
    my hubby took advantage & told his sociiety & family that i characterless. when i visited my country everyone in both places taunted & spit on me.
    now i am pregnant but my hubby keep threatening me to insut more by calling my family & telling more things against me. all my family members are nice to him bcz they expect that he will help them to get in this country while i hate them & dont want them to be around.

    i am considering taking intervention order againts both families so that they cant contact each other to humiliate me.

    also i am just depressed that my own loved ones without whom i cant leave are doing this to me. but i dont want to take their false allegations & politics. i dont want them to smile at me for rest of their life that they insulted me. life is so full of hatred.

    what should i do?? how to live without my mother & family?? how to make people believe that its them who were doing wrong & not me??

  49. Should I be upset my best friend hit his wife?

    My bud is 6ft 220lbs; his wife is 5ft 100lbs. About a year ago he comes to me saying his wife started getting physical with him – punching & scratching his face at home & in front of their six year old. This goes on for a few months, the whole time he’s warning her that she needs to stop, he’s going to hit her back & eventually after four months he does.

    She left him for a while & played the abused victim to her family, but when she came back (obviously not afraid of him) she tells him that even if she looses it & hits him, it’s not OK for him to be hitting her back because he’s so much bigger than her.

    My problem is this:
    My sister is an actual abused woman. Her husband beat the shit out of her & controlled her with the fear & threat of physical violence. I don’t think my bud’s wife is an abused woman. I think she’s a woman who pushed her luck & eventually got hit back. I’m not saying it was the right thing to do – but at the same time this is a woman who has told everybody including her own father that when she’s upset with her husband she intentionally pushes his buttons to push him over the edge.
    At that point how am I supposed to feel?

    Guys, I’d like to know how long you would allow a woman to beat the shit out of you until you finally hit back.

    Women, if you hit your man in the face day in & day out, would you really expect to not get hit back?
    He actually did start by grabbing her arms and holding her down, but when he let her up that’s when the face scratching started.

  50. My husband and I are in our mid 20s and have been married a little over a year. A few months before our wedding he went to Las Vegas with a few friends for his bachelor party. I told him I was fine with him going to a strip club but that I didn’t want him to get a lap dance. He said he wouldn’t. When he came home I asked him if he got a lap dance and he said no, they just went to the strippers although some of his friends got lap dances. We recently went to Las Vegas with another couple and somehow the topic of strippers came up and he admitted that his friends had bought him a lap dance at his bachelor party. I was pretty pissed off considering I asked him not to and he lied about getting one. He asked “what did I expect, it was his bachelor party” and said sorry. I thought I had gotten over it but now it keeps popping into my head and I feel hurt that he got one and lied about it. Am I crazy to feel this way? I could have danced with guys all night at my bachelorette party but I didn’t because we are in a serious exclusive relationship.

  51. Late last night, my husband and I were sitting at a tableat a local restaurant when a very nicely dressed young couple walked by and were seated directly behind us. It looked like they were on a date. My husband took note of the pretty girl and watched as they were seated. He asked me to turn around to take a look at her, which I did. My husband also made obvious maneuvers to get more looks and finally, when we were ready to leave, he went to stand up and he “snapped his head” so to speak, to get one last look at her. I said to him that he really needed to stop that. He became vulgar – He told me that when he “sees good looking p#**y he likes to look and doesn’t care what anybody thinks.” He continued, “I will look at p#**y anytime I want as much as I want. I don’t care how you f’n feel.”
    I do not have any illusions about men, nor my husband…I know that they/he look at women, it is normal (to a degree – right?). My issue is when a man makes an obvious move to do so. In this case a few of them, with me sitting next to him. I happen to think that when a man is out, he should have self-dicipline or self-control. It is just bad manners to do that – especially when you are with your wife. Also, the way he talks about women as being “p#**y – YIKES! And then there is him stating so expressly that he doesn’t caring about my feelings. We have been married for 7 months….I am used to his crude talk of women and just tossed it off as a guy in construction, but coupled with this latest blast and the fact that he is old enough – a grandfather….He insists that I am being a girl and he didn’t do anything wrong. What do YOU think? I’d appreciate thoughts.

  52. Hey so I might have a chance to have sex with this one women in front of her husband. I guess he likes his wife being please with another guy. He is 100% straight and so am I. I have never done anything like it. Should I do it? Or would I regret it. Would it be weird and awkward? Its just sex I guess and I would be getting laid.. its been a min. Thanks!

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